Louis C.K. seems to have a sort of knack for being understanding towards issues that do not pertain to him particularly and talking about them, which in a perfect world, wouldn’t be something to praise but in this world definitely is. If you’re going to use your white male privilege for something, this might as well be it.
In episode three of season four of his TV show Louie, he does just that by writing an entire monologue about the double standard between overweight men and overweight women, said by the wonderful Sarah Baker. This is a double standard we see on American TV all the time when the hot thin model looking woman overlooks the protagonist’s weight and sees their heart of gold and dates them. On the flip side, women in TV shows will always somehow lose weight or “get hot” for the good looking guy.
In the scene, “Vanessa” flips out after Louie tells her that she isn’t fat. She’s exasperated and tells him “the worst thing you can possibly say to a fat girl is ‘you’re not fat’” and then begins her monologue that you should watch here:
She talks about how Louis C.K. can stand up and talk about how it’s hard for him to get dates because he’s “fat” and people consider that cute but when a woman does it “people call the suicide hotline”. She also talks about the all too true reality that a lot of fat guys don’t want to date fat girls… why? because they don’t want to be looked down on the way society looks down on fat women. For dialogue written by Louis C.K., it’s impressive. (The writing of that episode even won an Emmy.)
Overall, I feel like one of the most important messages in this scene is pointing out that this double standard exists. Vanessa says it herself “And the worst part is, I’m not even supposed to do this [talk about it]”, but she did and now she can say “I’m fat and that’s alright”. Frankly, I think it’s right about time we stop making “fat” or “overweight” an insult.