There’s a stigma about dating a co-worker that’s hard to ignore, yet on many levels, it makes so much sense.
Work is a really easy place to meet new people, and to get to know them. You’ll have many opportunities to learn some pretty intimate things about a person: how they think, how they deal with adversity, how they dress, even what they like to eat for lunch. Considering the intimacy that can be built with a co-worker, and the fact that you can conceivably become good friends with one of your peers, it seems odd to draw the line at dating. But there must be a good reason why office relationships are frowned upon, right?
I’m sort of on the fence about this subject. I’ve dated a co-worker, and it didn’t work out, and things did get a little awkward around the office – on the other hand, I also think I’d be willing to give an office romance another shot. There are definitely some pretty significant obstacles to overcome however.
For one, you’re going to be seeing A LOT of your partner. Relationships, especially new ones, need some space for fear of them become stuffy and overwhelming. Going to work is a good way to momentarily get your mind off your relationship and focus on something else. Say goodbye to that alone time if you’re dating your coworker.
Additionally, it can be difficult to separate work from romance. There’s a strong chance that, once you and your partner go home together, you’ll spend quite a bit of time talking/gossiping/complaining about work, which is fine, but it’s important to create a distinction between your two lives together.
Essentially, I’m of the feeling that, if you really care for someone, or fall for someone, something like being co-workers is a comparatively pretty easy obstacle to get over. I would suggest trying to be as sure as possible that you’re willing to deal with the potential pitfalls of the situation. For example, if things don’t work out, you could be looking at a VERY awkward day-to-day situation, which is not a weight you want to place on yourself in your place of work.
But, love conquers all right? Just be careful, and be smart about things, and you can make anything “work” and cross any bridges as they present themselves!
What about you: have you ever dated a co-worker? Did it work out? Would you consider it?