If you read this blog on a regular or semi-regular basis, you know that I spend a lot of time talking about dating, relationships and sex. I try to draw as much as possible from my personal experiences (of which I have quite a lot), but it can be interesting to refer to scientific studies, to statistics, and to infographics.
Numbers and stats can be very illuminating in attempting to get an overall picture of how our society approaches things like relationships and sex, but its also important to remember that, no matter how objective and scientific these studies might claim to be, that they aren’t the end all be all.
You should never feel weird, or feel like you’re not normal, because of something you’ve read in a study or poll.
You should never try to change yourself so you can fit in with the average.
It may seem obvious, but everyone is a complex individual with a unique set of emotions, habits, likes and dislikes. No matter how thorough a research study, it will never be thorough enough to truly get into the facets of an individual’s personality. I look at polls and infographics the same way that I look at sex tips in Cosmo or horoscopes in the newspaper: I really enjoy reading them, and they provide some form insight and entertainment, but I’m never going to take them truly seriously and let them inform the important decisions in my life.
Nobody fits into the little boxes constructed by these over-arching studies, and nor should they. These things skim across the very top to try and reach a scientific truth, which they might achieve to varying degrees of success. If people took everything they read at face value and applied them to themselves in a personal manner, we would have some very emotionless, non-sympathetic people floating around in our world.
Don’t lose the things that make you YOU, just because a bunch of scientists or professionals told you that you should be a certain way.