We have modern problems for our modern world.
When you meet someone new, and after chatting with them for a bit, exchange phone numbers with them – you’re immediately faced with a choice. Should I contact them, or wait for them to contact me?
Things have gotten a little easier than they used to be in this situation with the advent of the text message. No longer do you have to give yourself a heart attack thinking about potentially calling your new potential lover. The text message is quick. It can be to the point. It’s less of a hassle than picking up the phone and calling. And that’s why you shouldn’t use them!
I’m not an old fuddy-duddy. I text all of the time. It’s fine to text with friends, or people that you’ve known for a long time. Texting with your significant other can be a lot of fun, in fact! But with someone new, forget about it. Here’s why:
a) Texting is extremely stressful and messes with your confidence. If you send a message, you might be waiting anxiously for a response all day. There is nothing worse than waiting all day for someone to respond while constantly checking your phone every 5 minutes. I’ve been there – it’s not worth it!
b) If you and your crush start texting back and forth, you’ll probably start covering a wide variety of topics. This might seem like a good thing, and it certainly can be, but here’s the problem: if you exchange too much information, when you finally meet up, you’ll have nothing to talk about! Having already covered the basic bases, your first/second/whatever meeting will be much more awkward because all of the small talk will already be out of the way.
c) It’s really difficult to represent yourself properly and to convey subtlety and emotion through text messages, especially if you don’t know the other person very well. Texting with someone you’re close with is different because they will know when you’re joking, what intonation you might be using, and will be able to visualize what you’re saying as though you’re having a face-to-face. When you’re texting someone who doesn’t know you, you may be giving them the wrong idea, or letting them believe something about your character that isn’t true/is misrepresented.
Another important thing to remember:
If he texts you “what’s up?” before 11 then he wants to hang out with you or is just being chatty.
If he texts you “what’s up?” after 11 then he wants to have sex with you.
So keep it in your pants ladies! I’m talking about your phone 😉