If you’re in a relationship, there can be a lot of pressure around Valentine’s Day.
Here’s my opinion about V-Day: though it’s pretty cheesy and has been almost entirely taken over by corporations (like every holiday), its a great opportunity to spend some romantic/sexy alone time with your partner and to remind them that you care and love them.
No matter how you look at Valentine’s Day, however, it can be an absolute nightmare making plans and figuring out how best to express your love. It’s really difficult to strike a balance between cheesy as hell and romantic, yet that is where the line must inevitably be drawn. I’ve experienced many Valentine’s Days through my life, and though I’ve usually avoided making a big deal out of them, here are some tips that I’ve picked up which might make things a bit easier for you.
1. Skip the fancy restaurant: You might be tempted to go with your lover to a four-star restaurant and splurge on an extravagant meal, but it really isn’t worth it. Line-ups, waits, and service will be horrible. Every restaurant will be busy and loud so you and you date won’t be able to hear each other speak. And unless you make a habit of going to fancy spots together, things will feel extremely awkward. Instead, pick a cheaper, more casual place that you’ve both been to before and like – it’s not about spending a pile of money, it’s about having an intimate time with one another.
2. Don’t go too crazy on a gift: This goes hand-in-hand with point #1. Unless you’ve both agreed to splurge, don’t go buying a Rolex for your lover. It will make them feel uncomfortable, especially if they didn’t spend as much. Instead, think of something thoughtful, inexpensive, and possibly sexy that they will enjoy. Why not try something like going to a sex shop and buying each other a cool new toy to spice up the bedroom? That way you can enjoy the gift together!
3. No pressure to have sex: Generally speaking, most people expect to have sex on Valentine’s Day, which can cause problems. Obviously, V-Day is about having an intimate, romantic time with your partner, which can often organically lead to some bedroom fun. Make sure things stay natural – there’s no point trying to force sex if it just isn’t happening, especially if it’s for a reason as silly as “It’s Valentine’s Day, it’s assumed that we’ll have sex.”
ABOVE: Dress sexy, but you don’t need to wear a scandalous thong or lingerie! Keep things fun, light and casual.
4. Enjoy Yourself: Valentine’s Day is about enjoying a romantic experience with your partner. Make sure it’s fun! Try not to let any stress or pressure get to you, and more importantly, even if its only for one night, try to forget any small issues you may be having in your relationship. This is a great time to forgive & forget, and to re-discover the fun and passion that made you fall in love in the first place!
I have a hot date for Valentine’s Day, which is an additional pressure on me. But I’m just going to go with the flow, see what happens, and hopefully by next V-Day I’ll have someone I truly love to spend it with!