Relationships, as we all know, are filled with peaks and valleys.
They can be tricky!
You might be totally digging this person you’re dating, when, all of a sudden, one of you needs to move away to a different city for whatever reason. Now you have a really difficult decision to make: to embark on the arduous long-distance relationship, or cut your losses and move on?
I’ve tried both choices before, and let me tell you, neither is ideal.
Can I preface by saying that I’ve never, ever seen a long distance relationship truly work out? I’ve seen them maintained for months at a time, but inevitably, the distance creates too big of a rift and the two people drift apart. This might seem pessimistic, but as far as I know
Option 1 – Cutting your Losses: This might theoretically seem like the easier choice. Avoid any potential heartbreak or drawn out erosion of your relationship by making it a real goodbye when you or your partner hit the road. The problem is, the easiness only exists theoretically.
When I did this, it was really awful. The parting was extremely difficult as we were currently in the midst of really falling for each other. As a result, for the first few months of living in my location, I was trying to get over feeling sad and lonely and didn’t devote enough time to becoming acclimated to my new surroundings.
Option 2 – Maintain the relationship over long distance: Your heart might lead you in this direction since it can be so difficult to say goodbye when you’re really into someone. Long distance relationships are really difficult so keep that in mind. The lack of physical interaction on a day-to-day basis can be really straining, even if you talk all of the time.
The person who has moved to a new place will inevitably be meeting a bunch of new people, which can create stress for both parties. I believe the only way a long-distance relationship can work is when there is a firm date that has been set up for when the final reunion will occur. Open-ended long distance relationships are simply too stressful for both parties to maintain in a healthy positive manner.
My conclusion is obviously skewed by my own experiences, whereby neither gameplan worked very well for me.
I would like to think that that if a couple truly loves each other, they can make a long distance relationship work, or rather, can get through ANY relationship roadblock together. I’ve just never seen it personally!
How about you, have you ever made a long distance relationship work? Are there any tips/tricks to make things easier?