Common misconception: everyone who is in a happy, committed relationship or stable marriage immediately lets go of themselves and turns into a giant, lazy blob who packs on pounds and can’t shed them.
This misconception is also usually applied to women (surprise surprise!) It’s a common idea that women who are happy with their partner will let themselves descend into matriarch status and stop paying attention to their looks and figure, to the extent that some men are actually afraid of commitment as a result.
Well guess what men, according to a recent study, YOU’RE the ones who start packing on the pounds post-commitment. Yes, that’s correct, according to a study conducted by Project EAT and reported on by Business Insider, “The results suggest that married men were 25% more likely to be overweight or obese than single men…”
So while you’re sitting on your butt watching the game and then complaining about how much sexier we used to be (well, you better not actually say that or else you probably won’t have to worry about being in a committed marriage much longer..), keep in mind that those Doritos and beers you’re cramming into your gut aren’t going to make you any thinner.
Let’s stop pointing fingers for a second, however. Are there any consistent ways to prevent EITHER partner from getting lazy and gaining weight? I think the legendary wait gain is indicative of one’s happiness and comfort in a situation, so it isn’t necessarily all bad, but there must be some kind of way to curb the eventual spiral.
I think you just have to stop focussing on what your partner is doing, and try leading by example. If you’re going to the gym, eating healthy, and maintaining a positive mental and physical self, it will be exceedingly difficult for your partner to sink into a lazy, fat-building routine without feeling like a giant sloth.
Don’t rub your active lifestyle in your partner’s face, however, as this could cause them to resent you or get them to peg you as being “holier-then-thou.” Simply focus on your own image and let everything else runs its course. I have found this to be the most effective approach based on personal experience.
What do you think? What’s the best way for you and your spouse to maintain a positive healthy lifestyle? Are there any tricks to it worth sharing?